There comes a point in sobriety when the pink cloud of perfection and “I got this” dissipates. Life continues to happen as we settle into our newfound freedom. We settle back into our old way of thinking if we are not working a good program.
There will always be little things. Life will happen on life’s terms consistently ( we can bank on that!) and it is up to us to learn a new way of coping to deal with the enigmas of life.
Slogans like, “Live and Let Live” and “Life on Life’s Terms” are important throughout our sobriety. When we were out there, we let everything bother us. We harbored resentments over a lot of crap. We were angry at our family, friends, the system and God. We felt wronged and justified in our anger.
This thought process destroyed us! It destroyed me for sure. Some of the things that made me angry were other people, traffic, television, my mate at the time and the weather just to name a few. It took me years to get it in my head that I was letting people, places and things control me by thinking I could control them.
This makes for one ticked off individual. And how ridiculous is it being upset over little things we have zero control over. It is the moments of perceived loss of control that the Serenity Prayer comes in handy:
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Once we realize the only thing we have control over is the way we think and that the way we think affects the way we feel, we now have a sense of freedom.