Get Rid Of The Junk

If you are anything like me, you have too much crap.  Too many coupons lying around that you’ll never use, too many magazines that you’ve already read (but might need to refer to later for useful tips) and too many clothes in your closet that you haven’t worn in six months or will never wear.

Get rid of all of the junk cluttering up your home, your car and anywhere else you keep it.  Clean up your space, clean up your mind.

I’m sure you’ve done the deep, spring clean on the house once or twice a year.  That time is coming up again.  Did you ever notice how much more relaxed you feel when you plop down on your fresh sofa or favorite chair and gaze at your clean home?  You feel peaceful, relaxed, maybe even energized.

It’s funny how a clean, clutter free home coincides with a clean, clutter free mind.  And a clean, clutter free mind helps you focus.   You know where everything is now.  You have put it in its proper place.  When you don’t have to rip the house or apartment to shreds looking for keys or a paper you feel more relaxed.

Where are the keys?  Oh, they are on the key hook.  Easy.

Where is that credit card statement? Right! It’s in the file drawer.  Simple.

If you have clothes you don’t or won’t wear, but can’t bear to throw them away, donate them.  You’ll be helping out a lot of people and feel good about yourself.

If you’ve got way too many magazines lying around that you’ve read but (gasp!) can’t stomach throwing in the trash, donate them to your local gym.  Better yet, you can donate them to troops overseas.  There is a site called Noanie.com with information on how to get started on donating magazines.

When we free up our living space, we free up our mind space.

Meditation for the day:  I un-clutter my space so that I may un-clutter my mind.

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Gratitude

The days blur by as our to-do lists seem to grow in size like water infested sponges.  Then life happens.  An unexpected illness, a home repair or maybe your car dies when you are on your way home from work.  I can totally relate to this last one because that is what happened to me yesterday.

 As I sat in the driver seat, cursing everything imaginable with my ‘why me’ attitude, I realized that I was being kind of bitchy.  I mean, there are people who are less fortunate.  There are people who are unemployed and wish they were broke down at work.  Yet, there I was sitting in my car (which has fared me well so far) complaining to my girlfriend on the phone about all the injustice of the day while I waited for the tow truck.

 They say when life hands you lemons to make lemonade, which, I find quite corny.  But I get it now.  Make the best of your situation.  Know that whatever life throws at you, you can handle it.  If you feel the need to drop to your knees and scream at the sky, go for it.  After your brief collapse get back up and figure out how to make it work.

 I made a gratitude list last night.  I listed all of the things I was grateful for.  Some of the things on my list were: my career, money in the bank, AAA, friends and coffee.  Make your own list.  You’ll realize that things are going to be okay and you have a lot in your life that you may take for granted sometimes.     

 Meditation for the day:  I am grateful for the little things in life.

Love Thyself

We love our partners, our children, certain foods and animals. But do we love ourselves? These days we are so wrapped up in taking care of everyone and everything else, we often forget that we need care, too.

Take a long bath, get a manicure or buy that book you have been itching to read. Self care is important. If we do not care for ourselves, our health suffers and then we cannot care for those we love.

If you are down on yourself a lot, sit in a quiet room (maybe even light your favorite scented candle) and think positive affirmations. Thoughts like, ‘I deserve happiness’ and ‘I am awesome’ are simple chants but they help when we need that little jolt of self-love.

Having no love for yourself makes it difficult for us to have true love for others.  There are days when I put a lot of things before me, neglecting my need for self-love, and those are the days that I do poorly on projects in work.

Going for a walk in the afternoon (or whenever you can manage it) is a way to give love to yourself.  Alone with your thoughts and ideas you can come back to whatever you were doing prior with a fresh outlook.

So today make it a point to love yourself!

Affirmation for the day: I am worthy of love and love myself completely.

Daily Meditation for February 13, 2011

Get Rid Of Fear

Emerson said: “Do the thing you fear, and death of fear is certain.”

There are a lot of different emotions that fall into the category fear.  Jealousy, insecurity and selfishness are just a few.  When we are fearful, we give away our power.  Fear rears its ugly head when we say, “I can’t” or “But” or “What if”.  Fear stays in us when we are in a hopeless situation and remain because we are afraid of failure or change.

Talk to your partner about that issue, ask your boss for that raise or take flying lessons.  Once we get past the fear, there is nothing more to be afraid of.  Most often, we say, “that wasn’t so bad. I wonder what I was so afraid of?”

Meditation for the day: Letting go of fear builds my character.

Daily Meditation for February 12, 2011

Feel Beautiful On The Inside

These days the world is overrun with plastic surgery, flashy cars, expensive clothes and the list goes on.  We always strive to look beautiful.  But do we feel beautiful?

You can get all the plastic surgery you want to give yourself the ideal image.  But if you still feel empty inside at the end of the day, all of the plastic surgery and fancy clothes is a waste of time and money.  If you always want what someone else has or want to look like someone else, there is something missing inside of you.

Today meditate on who you are, not what you are.  What are your ideals?  Where are your boundaries?  If you strip away everything, is your inner core solid?

Feel beautiful in all of your little imperfections.  Those imperfections are what complete you and make you unique!

Meditation for the day: I am a beautiful human being and love who I am.

Daily Meditation For February 10, 2011

“Time Is On My Side”

In today’s world, we struggle for time, money and prestige.  Between deadlines, laundry piles, shopping lists and bills, we have no time for others let alone ourselves. It is time to take back some time.

Instead of trying to cram 25 hours in a 24 hour day, take an inventory of what is most important.

Try not to stay up late to watch a television show.  Catch it another time and turn in a little sooner.  You’ll wake up earlier the following morning and be able to prioritize tasks in their order of importance.  You might even have the time and energy to finish the shopping list or toss the next load of laundry in the washer.

Rather than run through the front door from work straight to the kitchen, flinging cabinets open desperately searching for the night’s meal, maybe make a weekly planner of meals. Plan the meal and list ingredients accordingly on Sunday.  You could prep the meal the night before if it will keep in the fridge.

Time is not our enemy, our over loaded to-do list is.

How To Say No.

Every day there seems to be some sort of something that rears its ugly head and demands our attention.  This ugly little monster is sometimes a person asking us for time which we simply do not have.  Someone might need a ride somewhere, a project done sooner than anticipated, or just an ear to listen.

At times, we can do this.  We can be that wonderful person that has the time to drive out of our way, put in some overtime at the office or sit down for coffee.  But often there simply are not enough hours in the day.

Here is a hypothetical.  You are on your way out the door to go to a yoga meet you’ve had on your mind for two weeks.  You’re feeling energized and pumped.  A brand new yoga mat is peeking out of your brand new yoga bag and oh, wait… what’s that?  Your phone is ringing.  It is your friend Shelly.  She just broke up with her third boyfriend in six months and she wants to talk about what she could be doing wrong.  Maybe it is Mike from the shop.  He once again forgot how to do a proper brake inspection and he needs help.

Now, that little voice in your head says, I don’t have time.  But there is that other voice, the bigger one that tells you that you will be a rotten friend if you decide to go ahead to your yoga class.  It  tells you that you are a bad person and that you should blow off something you’ve been looking forward to all week for something that, honestly, can wait.  Shelly will be fine (three boyfriends in six months… really?).  Mike, well, he’ll probably remember if he learns the hard way.

It is okay to tell that bigger voice to stuff it!  Sometimes we need to be selfish.  If we do not take care of ourselves we dwindle to nerves and resentment which leads to being unhealthy.  Who wants that?

Here are some ways to tactfully say no without feeling guilty.

1) I would love to help you out, but I have a previous engagement. This engagement could be a legitimate meeting or it could simply be a date with a cup of tea and your favorite television program.  If t.v. and tea is what you have been looking forward to after a busy day, you deserve to keep your date with yourself.

2) It is really out of my way and I’ll be cutting it close. Driving people places can, at times, be grueling.  If you have somewhere you need to be, whether it is the gym or home, and you are going over in your head where to shave time so that your friend can make it to their destination, then you don’t have time.  Instead of feeling guilty about saying no, be honest with yourself about the time you have.

3) I wish I could, but I have plans. Maybe you do, maybe you don’t.  Maybe your idea of plans is at the other end of the spectrum compared to most.  Maybe you actually do have to wash your hair.  Clean hair is important after all.  Telling someone you have plans is perfectly fine.

4) Unfortunately, I have to be somewhere. I use this one at work.  It doesn’t happen often, but there are times I am asked to stay to finish a project.  Sometimes I can and sometimes I can’t.  When I can’t, I just say to my boss, “I would love to stay and finish, but I have somewhere I need to be.  I’ll finish it first thing in the morning”.  He always tells me that that’s fine.  What is he going to say?  I mean, I have to be somewhere a little more important than where I am now.  Yes, work is important.  However, at times there are things that are more pressing in my life than work.

5) I’m sorry, I just can’t. This is probably the most direct way to tell someone who you really cannot help out.  A girl I work with at my second job says this to me when I ask her to cover and I so admire her honesty rather than giving me some long reason.  If I ask her why she can’t then I am out of line.  It is none of my business, just like it is no one’s business why you cannot help them out.  It is our guilt for being selfish that leads us down the path of excuses.  Stop it!  You don’t need an excuse.

I hope some of these have helped you out.  These are the most honest reasons I have heard over the last few years when I asked someone to help me out and they couldn’t.  There was no arguing.  How audacious I would be to question someone wanting to have some time of their own.