The Thanks and the Giving

Cornucopia of Thanks

Thanksgiving is tomorrow.  Yep.  I get four cool days off (except I have to work job #2 Friday night – but that’s the fun job) and I get to see my family tomorrow.

I was just reading Billie Jo Woods’ What if? Wednesday post about the Mayflower.  If you haven’t done so already, go check it out. She had mentioned how she misses home and that got me thinking.

What do I have to be thankful for?

What should I be giving more of?

What do I complain about (a lot) when I should feel privileged to even have that kind of problem?

The answers to these questions are in list form somewhere in my mind and that’s okay for now.  I do have a Top Three Things to be Thankful for on Thanksgiving going though.

I happen to see a lot of self-absorbed behavior where I live.  Now, I don’t know if it is because I grew up in the city which is not exactly a place of privilege and I now live on a street where everyone has their own driveway.  Maybe my perception is self-absorption when the reality of the situation is these people up here (most of them don’t say hello when I walk by) just have a different way of doing things.

One thing I miss about the city:

Having neighbors to sit on the front step with and chat.

I do have one neighbor in the front building who is pretty chatty.  We don’t have a step to sit on, but we do have many trees to stand under.

I am thankful for her.

Now, the giving part.  My daughter is sixteen.  Anyone who has a teenager knows how much fun it is having one in the house!  Yes.  The slammed doors, the rolled eyes, the loud music.  Why, it is just a gosh darn hoot.

One thing I give my daughter a lot of (and I just recently noticed this) is lectures.  Originally, I thought that I was “giving her tons of joy” because my mother and father never lectured me.

I say things to her like, “You should be thankful I talk to you like this. Mom-mom never talked to me and I wish she had.”  My daughter is looking at me like, “You are crazy woman!”

I walk in the poor kids room, say “You got five minutes?” and before I know it her eyes glaze over and I am winded from talking for a straight thirty minutes.  Gee, thanks mom!

So the giving part I will be doing this season is giving my daughter less grief and giving her more understanding.  I’ll give her a little more space (not too much!) and hope that she will start looking at me like a human being again.

Happy Thanksgiving my fine friends.  What are you thankful for?  What will you be giving this season?

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