Okay… we used to call them resolutions and that got us no freaking where. Around 2012, I called them goals and I don’t know if I was the brainiac who thought it up or what, but it caught on and now people call them New Year Goals and hey… it works for me no matter who thought it up first.
Well, it works when I put in the effort. Same goes for you. I mean, I don’t know you, but if you are a writer, chances are you like the idea of things going as well as they went in Week One of Two of your project. But then all hell breaks loose, the cat knocks your coffee over, the laundry is piled up and you aren’t sure if those are your kids or booger encrusted demons. You’ve got nothing accomplished save a pile of tissues inundated with your own tears instead of the tears of your enemies.
Usually, my goals are: save money, lose ten pounds, build a race car, travel to another dimension, communicate telepathically with my cat…blah blah blah… you know, realistic goals. But one thing always gets in the way: ME.
How I do things:
make outrageous, unattainable goal.
fail to reach said goal.
hate myself and commence drowning in a pool of chocolate, self-loathing and my own damn tears.
This year I do have some goals… mostly REALISTIC ONES but a few ridiculous ones at the end… you know, just in case.
One of my goals is to get published. Yes! Published as in an actual book with actual pages with actual words on them.
So this is how I set my goals THIS YEAR (and the last few years):
write a book
rewrite until a finished, polished work is complete.
research agents and publishers
GET IN SHAPE
Commit to gym 5 days a week
30 minutes minimum cardio 7 days a week
strength training 5 days a week
eat good foods/drink a lot of water (100 oz daily)
if it doesn’t have a place it is dead to me.
throw out all junk mail/mail/inserts/coupons
magazines: throw out all old issues (or donate somewhere)
clothes: throw out anything I haven’t worn in a year.
GET FINANCES STRAIGHT
Pay down all debt by paying $20 extra a month on payments
DO NOT use credit cards
Set up automatic payments on all bills (I am almost at 100% with this)
Keep separate checking accounts and STOP transferring money!
READ 100 BOOKS in 2017
No need for bullet points on this one, really. My goal is to read 100 books this year no matter what. All kinds of books: thriller/suspense (my fave!); memoirs (my other fave!); self-help; horror; romances (not really my thing, but I’ll give it a shot).
Also, win the lottery, buy a nice cabin in the woods and never have to work a regular job again.
I have faith in myself that I can do all this. The ones in boldface are the ones I really need to stay diligent with. The one in blood red, bold, italic, underline is my MAIN NUMBER ONE GOAL FOR THE F**KING YEAR. If I am not stressed about money and bills, I can focus on other important things.
Have you given any thought to goals for 2017? How do you list your goals?
As if I didn’t already have enough on my plate, I decided to sign up for the 2013 Ultimate Blog Challenge. I do stuff like this because it keeps me writing, keeps me reading other blogs and I meet a few cool peeps along the way.
I’m not sure if I am going to have a theme this year. I usually do the A – Z Challenge, and that always has a theme for me. This time, who knows.
I do know that I plan on having tons of fun, honing my writing skills and stumbling upon lots of cool blogs via the hashtag #blogboost on Twitter and the group on Facebook.
Happy New Year! Welcome to the The Daily Woman.. a blog dedicated to living sober and giving life all you got! I signed up for the Ultimate Blog Challenge just in time for 2013… The month of January is dedicated to living life sober, getting help, working the steps and tons of other useful information and links.
My goal is to post each of the 31 days. 😀
A lot of us wrapped up in alcoholism and addiction have made resolutions (or goals) of sobriety for 2013. Most of these will be broken if the right help is not sought.
Now, I am not a doctor and I don’t even play one on TV, but I do know what has worked for me and hope to do some sort of twelfth step work through my blog. I have reached a point in my sobriety that what keeps me sober is doing the next right thing and putting my hand out to the next still sick and suffering alcoholic/addict.
Thanks for climbing on board and Happy New Year to you all.
So, I have been going to A LOT of meetings. I even started going to Al-Anon, because hey, I am from a long line of alcoholics, so it makes sense. And, as I go to these meetings (six a week) and I meet new people and hear new stories, I am finding out many things about myself.
Honestly, I can’t change me or my circumstances without rigorous honesty and self-awareness. If I keep living in an imaginary bubble and pretend my life is just the way I like it, my life is going to stay exactly the way I don’t like it.
That is lame.
I went to the library Saturday and took out two books: “Make Your Creative Dreams Real” and “Become a Personal Trainer For Dummies.”
I know I am a good writer, and I love to write. My dream has always been to be a best-selling author touching people’s lives, all the while living in an amazing house up the mountains somewhere. However, what I am realizing is this:
I really love people. I love talking to people, I love making someone’s day and, most of all, I love helping people. People fascinate me. Their mannerisms, their behavior, the things they say and especially the way they project the way they think.
And for some reason, whenever I journal or reflect on what I REALLY want to do with my life, it always comes back to helping people. Specifically, it always comes back to becoming a personal trainer or an addiction counselor.
So that is where I am at.
Write synopsis and query letter for “Bound and Broken.”
Come up with some flash fiction stories (I had NO idea what to write for this past Friday – sorry everyone).
Continue with meetings.
Do a mind map of goals, tools and resources to get on the right path.
That’s it for me! 😀 Where is everyone with their progress? Do you ever find new goals as you tackle current ones?
Ya know, sometimes I wonder what the heck life is all about really. Sometimes I feel like it is one big joke of oxymorons, coincidences and irony. I really do try to gather the positive out of every situation, however, I am in a situation now and I am laughing because it is so sad. I won’t go into detail on my blog here, but let’s just say, WTF?!
Okay.. thanks for letting me share.
I have continued to review/edit my current WIP. I am up to page 50 of 188. If I do five pages a day over the next 30 days I will finish by July 4th! Also, I put a shout out to anyone who wanted to beta read it for me. The work is a crime drama with sex, murder drugs and language. So if anyone is into that or isn’t offended by such things, shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
In other news, my ATV injuries are healing well with the exception of my left shoulder. No biggie… it will be where it is supposed to be eventually.
On With The Show
continue to edit WIP. Five pages a day. Finish this!
Continue to read/comment blogs (I have slacked on this immensely, I am truly, truly sorry).
Triberr: Three times a week.
Read Shay Fabbro’s Dangerous Reflections! It sounds very interesting.
That’s it for me… what say you? How are you coming along with your goals?
I thought life was supposed to get more simplistic as age came along… no? Not in my life. I am sure there is still hope.
My life is more amazing these days than it was this time last year and the year before that, and so on. Who knows what is in store? Only God knows.
In writing news, I started back up with my Friday Flash Fiction segments. I posted the first one last Friday. It kind of pales in comparison to some of my earlier work, but it turned out just the way I hoped. If you want to check it out, you can do so by clicking here.
In sobriety news, I will be hooking back up with my sponsor at some point this week. I hit a meeting last week and will hit one this week. My six-year anniversary is in two weeks.
In life news, I am really doing some soul-searching as to what this life holds for me and where I can tweak it to maximize my usefulness and potential.
I am faced with interesting dilemmas and decisions as far as living arrangements and mental health. Funny how the two seem to be coinciding.
I was excited to finally get back into editing my WIP today. I had the whole day to myself, Saturday! It was great.
So… for this week:
continue to edit WIP.
walk 20-30 minutes a day.
get to an al-anon meeting.
continue to look for a reasonably priced car (my car is dying).
journal, journal, journal. I have been doing this a lot and it is really helping me find out about who I am and what I want.
I hope everyone had a great week and that this coming week will be even better than the last.
The last twenty days have been a complete roller coaster of physical. mental and emotional whack-ed-ness. Tax season is over (yay!) and I can finally get back into focusing on my goals. Between family, writing like crazy and dealing with work, I was contemplating checking myself into a nice little padded room for a few days.
Luckily, I made it through the last two weeks (three and a half months) unscathed.
My goals remained unaltered for the most part, but I totally bombed on Script Frenzy. Yeah, I won’t be entering into any more so long as I work at an accounting firm. Something about trying to write three and a half pages of script a day and dealing with tax deadlines resembles milk and orange juice. They just don’t jive.
Trust me when I say, giving up on something is never something I do with shrugged shoulders. It pains me to admit that I cannot continue Script Frenzy, but I must be realistic.
The A – Z Challenge will be over in eight days. This one I will finish. It has been a lot of fun finding random words associated with positive mental health to blurb about. It has been even more fun visiting other blogs.
I have been getting in more exercise. I stopped walking in the park after my co-worker passed away last year (they needed me at the office) and I quit smoking in November. You know what that means!
Yep. I put on A LOT of weight. Not cool. They day after tax season, I decided I was going to walk in the park for at least twenty-five minutes a day (M-F). I have done it so far. As well as made it a point to go bicycling at a local park for an hour an afternoon.
Modified goals to go forth with:
1. continue to read/comment blogs 2. pull out WIP and begin edits 3. continue Flash Fiction Friday 4. thirty – forty minutes of cardio a day 5. review budget (I need to save for a car) 6. re-organize menus for the day – get rid of sugar loaded foods! (yogurt pretzels are not good for me!)
That is it for me my fine friends…
How are your goals coming along?
Enjoy the rest of your Sunday! 😀