Caution. It means be careful, warning, danger and other things. But in the midst of life, sometimes caution can be a death sentence that leads to a mundane existence filled with the same boring pork chops and applesauce every Thursday night along with Sunday night bowling. Hey, bowling is great. Pork chops are great. But… wouldn’t Bowling for Pork Chops be even better?
There have been times I have played on the safe side of the fence. Okay, most of my life (unless I was drunk or high) I played on the safe side of the fence. I took risks, but they were extremely calculated risks with a high percentage success rate. I mean, one thing I hate is to fail or be wrong. So it makes sense that caution was something I exercised often.
Caution can be a death sentence. It can be that thing that suffocates you. You’ll wake up in thirty years, roll out of bed and look in the mirror and ask yourself, “why?” And you’ll pepper your soul with “shoulda, woulda, coulda’s.”
If we don’t take chances, we don’t know what can happen! Sure, we’ll always know that our food will taste good because we order the same thing, or that we’ll make it to work on time because we always take the same route (boring!). We can always be sure we’ll be entertained because we watch that movie we love every time.
Calculated risks are a way to step out of our comfort zone and grow as an individual. Do you remember the last time you took a calculated risk? Maybe you took a deep breath and asked for a raise (which I did last week – it paid off!) or maybe you decided to wear a different color sweater than that gray one you always wear.
Whatever it is, step outside your comfort zone and take a calculated risk. You will grow in ways you won’t begin to believe.
Believe. What a strong word. I believe in you. I’m a believer. Daydream believer. You gotta believe. I believe I can fly.
Sure is a lot of believing… and why not? Believing in something or someone gives us hope. It gives us something to look forward to.
Here are some songs with “Believe” in the title:
Do You Believe in Love – Huey Lewis and the News
Daydream Believer – The Monkees
She Believes in Me – Kenny Rogers
I Believe in You and Me – Whitney Houston
The most important thing you can believe in is you. YOU have to believe in YOU. If you don’t, who will? It is kind of like the Tooth Fairy or Santa Claus, when we stop believing, it no longer exists. Think back to a time when you believed or stopped believing… how did you feel?
When I believe I am a good writer or that I can go to the gym, I do those things. How about you?
Believe in positivity, forgo negativity…
Quotes About Believing
“We are all worms. But I believe that I am a glow-worm.” Winston Churchill
“If we don’t believe in freedom of expression for people we despise, we don’t believe in it at all.” Noam Chomsky
“Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.” Christian D. Larson
So you see, believing is a wonderful thing and whatever you believe is your truth.
Adversity: making or breaking people since the dawn of time.
How much have you overcome in your life? After you get to know someone and quit the sappy, chitter chatter of small talk, what do you tell them about yourself? Maybe you are fighting cancer, going through a nasty divorce, battling addiction or maybe you have inner demons you can’t quite figure out and you see a doctor to help you with those demons. None of this makes a bad person. It makes a human being and it makes you beautiful.
I try to put some of the adversity I have overcome into my writing. Truth is much more fascinating than fiction, no doubt. Some of the adversity I have put (or will put) into my writing:
Being a teen parent
An abusive marriage
Growing up poor
Isn’t it interesting that those tribulations we do overcome, that adversity, it makes us stronger and gives us layers. Imagine if everything went the way we wanted consistently… how freaking boring would that be?
Think about our writing, your writing. There is adversity in good writing. There is an obstacle to hurdle, a task to complete, a mystery to solve. A good story has a protagonist that must overcome adversity to get to the goal.