Hey all.. I hope that you are all shiny and well and that you have been kicking major arse on whatever you got going on. I want to apologize for falling off the radar for the last couple months… it seems all writing and reading without working a solid program and keeping myself in a good place left me kind of angry and hostile.
But I am back. I just found a new sponsor last night.. I have seen her around for a little while and I really like what she has. I also discovered al-anon. I went to my first ever meeting of that sort Wednesday night and just… wow. It’s amazing the things we realize when we shut up and really listen.
So, here is what I discovered in the last couple months while adjusting to living life on life’s terms.
- I have no control over anyone.
- I can’t tell people what to do; I can make suggestions.
- If something/someone makes me feel bad, I need to see my part in it FIRST, and then take action.
Seeing my part in all the stuff that has happened to me has really done wonders. At first, I blamed everyone for my life. Right down to my children! How crazy is that? When I realized that I have a part in how people treat me (how I let them treat me) and that I can stand up for myself…man, let me just say: HUGE EXHALE.
Children are innocent victims of their circumstances, but as we grow older there comes a point in which we become responsible for our lives….
Living Life on Life’s Terms: Life just keeps on happening. It doesn’t stop. There is no Pause or Rewind button. There is no: “wait, this can’t happen to me! I’m not ready!”
There are two choices: either change the circumstances or change the self. If we don’t change the self, chances are we’ll wind up back in similar circumstances.
Thanks for letting me share. Enjoy your weekend!
- What I Learned About “Listen And Learn” (recoveryalongroute66.com)
- Al-Anon Step One (jesttupositive.wordpress.com)