Your Future Is In Your Hands
You alone hold the power to change your life or maintain it.
Taking responsibility of our lives can be, at times, difficult. As youngsters, the only responsibility most of us had was homework, keeping our room clean and the chores our parents delegated to us. Then we enter high school or college as young adults. The world is starting to look different and we are thinking, most often for the first time, about the future.
I didn’t follow the path my parents had hoped. Somewhere around the age of fourteen, the blame game started. My life sucked and it was everyone else’s fault. I didn’t realize that if I followed the rules, got good grades and stayed in school that my future would be wondrous. I partially realized this in my twenties. But, I didn’t fully realize this until less that three years ago. Since then, I am opening doors of wondrous opportunity and finally understanding that while I have to live life on life’s terms, I control my destiny.
An example of this is someone in a bad marriage, as I once was. I stayed in that marriage far beyond the realm of reconciliation. I used excuses like, ‘but, I have nowhere to go’ and ‘but, what about the kids’. The truth was, the thought of leaving terrified me. There is a saying that everything after but is bullshit. ‘I should go back to school, but…’
Practice I statements and leave out the buts.
You’re going to feel like saying ‘but’ after your statement. Stop yourself. I don’t care if you have to physically grab your tongue and hold it. Just make the statement. Let it settle. Then say the next statement.
I should go back to school. I will go back to school.
I should join that pottery class. I will join that pottery class.
I should tell my spouse I am unhappy. I will tell my spouse I am unhappy.
I should ask for a raise. I will ask for a raise.
I should take a day off. I will take a day off.
Sure, stepping out of the comfort zone is down right terrifying! When we do things that are out of our comfort zone we strengthen our self-worth and confidence.
Meditation for the day: I alone hold the key to my future.